Hey, I'm Aleshia!

I'm a wife, mom of three, pink-haired woman with a whole lot of life experience, a little sass, and a pretty personal reason for doing what I do.

I've spent nearly 30 years navigating my own mental health journey, learning how to understand myself, and discovering that healing isn't about having everything figured out.

These days, I help overwhelmed women find their footing, understand their patterns, and start creating lives that actually feel like their own.

And trust me, I didn't get here without a few plot twists. 😂

Emotional Wellness Coach | Founder of Get Regulated & Rise.

My Story Didn't Start With a Breakdown

I've been navigating anxiety, depression, and the complicated workings of my own mind for nearly 30 years.

It started when I was a teenager.

Over the years, I've also lived with OCD, trichotillomania (compulsive hair pulling), and trichophagia (swallowing hair). For a long time, some of those struggles were things I kept hidden from the world.

And then, around 40 years old, I discovered I had ADHD.

Yep. Four decades of living with a brain that seemed to have 47 tabs open at once, and suddenly some of the things I'd spent my entire life questioning started making a whole lot more sense.

But here's what I want you to understand.

Just because I was struggling didn't mean my life stopped.

I became a wife, a mom, a business owner, and a woman who could seemingly handle just about anything.

I learned how to smile, show up, get things done, and keep moving even when things weren't nearly as okay as they looked from the outside.

And somewhere along the way, I became really damn good at being who everybody else needed me to be.

Keeping the peace. Meeting expectations. Holding everything together.

And slowly losing touch with myself in the process.

Then came the chapter that brought me to my knees.

The Chapter That Brought Me to My Knees

I was isolated. Terrified. Completely consumed by anxiety and thoughts about my own mortality.

I'm not talking about occasionally feeling anxious.

I'm talking about waking up in a panic attack before my eyes were even fully open and spending every waking moment fighting fear until I finally passed out from exhaustion at night.

Day after day.

And somehow, that wasn't even the hardest part.

The hardest part was thinking about my kids witnessing that version of their mom.

A version I never wanted them to see.

Looking back, I genuinely believe God, the Universe, my body, and my mind all came together and said:

ENOUGH ALREADY.

Everything I'd been trying so hard to hold together came crashing down.

At the time, it felt like my entire world was falling apart.

But eventually, I began to realize that maybe this wasn't about putting all the pieces of my old life back together.

Maybe it was about figuring out which pieces actually belonged to me.

And which ones I'd been carrying for everyone else.

Finding My Way Back to Myself

I wish I could tell you there was one magical moment when everything clicked and suddenly life was beautiful again.

But that's not how it happened.

It happened through little things.

Getting back into routines that actually filled my cup instead of constantly pouring from an empty one.

Working on my mindset. Paying attention to the way I spoke to myself. Learning that I didn't have to believe every thought that came flying through my head.

I also found my way back to EFT tapping, something I'd been practicing on and off since I was 19.

But somewhere along the way, something else happened.

I became absolutely fascinated with the nervous system.

I wanted to understand WHY my body reacted the way it did. Why fear could take over before I'd even opened my eyes. Why certain patterns felt so automatic. And most importantly, how I could learn to work WITH my nervous system instead of constantly fighting against it.

I didn't just want to feel better.

I wanted to understand myself.

And then there were my three rocks.

Three people who stood beside me through one of the hardest chapters of my life.

They gave me grace when I needed it. They didn't expect me to magically pull myself together. But they also gently nudged me forward when I'd forgotten how to dream about a better life.

They helped me remember that there was still a future worth getting excited about.

And little by little, I started taking action toward that future.

Not giant leaps.

Sometimes barely noticeable steps.

But steps nonetheless.

And somewhere in that messy, imperfect process, I began realizing something.

I didn't have to go back to being the woman I was before everything fell apart.

I could become a woman who understood herself better. Who recognized her needs. Who could set boundaries, make different choices, and build a life that actually felt like hers.

And no, that doesn't mean I never struggle anymore.

I'm still a work in progress. I still have hard days, old patterns that show up uninvited, and moments when I need to remind myself to use the very tools I teach.

But now I have tools, awareness, and a much different relationship with myself.

I'm not chasing some perfectly healed version of me. I'm learning how to live as the real me.

Why Get Regulated & Rise Exists

There are things I experienced during my darkest days that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy.

The fear. The isolation. The feeling of being trapped inside your own mind, wondering if you're ever going to feel like yourself again.

And if there's one thing I know for certain, it's that I never want another woman to feel like she has to navigate that alone.

As I started finding my way back, I did an Ikigai exercise to help me figure out what I wanted my life to look like and what truly gave it meaning.

And wouldn't you know it? God and the Universe seemed to be nudging me in the same direction.

Toward helping other women.

Toward taking everything I'd experienced, everything I'd learned, and everything I was continuing to discover about myself and using it for something bigger.

Because here's the thing.

I've spent nearly 30 years navigating mental health struggles. I've learned tools, explored different approaches, made mistakes, had setbacks, and discovered things that genuinely changed how I understand myself.

And I LOVE sharing what I've learned.

Not because I have all the answers.

And certainly not because I've got this whole healing thing perfectly figured out.

But because if something I've learned can help another woman understand herself sooner, find a tool that makes her day a little easier, or avoid spending years feeling stuck in the same patterns I did?

Then every bit of knowledge I get to pass along matters.

I can't promise anyone a shortcut through healing. Every journey is different.

But if I can help you find your footing, feel less alone, and maybe even shorten the time it takes to discover what helps you move forward?

That's something worth showing up for.

That's why I created Get Regulated & Rise.

Not to tell women how to become perfect versions of themselves.

But to help them understand themselves, find support, break free from patterns that no longer serve them, and start creating lives that actually feel like their own.

Because you deserve more than just getting through the day. You deserve a life you're excited to wake up to.

The Experience, Education & Tools Behind My Work

My personal journey is what brought me here, but my passion for understanding the mind, body, and nervous system is what keeps me learning.

I've been using EFT tapping on and off since I was 19, and over the years, that curiosity has grown into something much bigger.

Today, I'm an Emotional Wellness Coach and certified EFT/TFT Tapping Master Practitioner, with additional certifications in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Law of Attraction (LOA).

I combine my personal experience, professional training, and passion for understanding the nervous system to help overwhelmed women better understand themselves, navigate emotional challenges, and create meaningful change in their everyday lives.

But here's what matters most to me.

I don't believe in handing women a bunch of tools and telling them to figure it out.

I believe in helping you understand what's happening beneath the overwhelm, explore practical ways to support yourself, and build the confidence to navigate life's messy moments.

Because knowledge is powerful.

But learning how to actually use it in your everyday life? That's where things can start to change.

You Don't Have to Figure It All Out Alone

If you've made it this far, I hope you know something.

You don't have to wait until everything falls apart to start taking care of yourself.

You don't have to have the right words, all the answers, or some perfectly mapped-out healing journey.

And you sure as hell don't have to do it alone.

Whether you're overwhelmed, stuck in patterns you can't seem to break, or simply ready to start feeling more like yourself again, I'd love to help you explore what moving forward could look like.

Your story isn't over. And you deserve to have a say in what the next chapter looks like.